diff --git a/lib/shared/messages/update-relationship-message-spec.js b/lib/shared/messages/update-relationship-message-spec.js
--- a/lib/shared/messages/update-relationship-message-spec.js
+++ b/lib/shared/messages/update-relationship-message-spec.js
@@ -51,8 +51,6 @@
   ...
 };
 
-const connectionOnFarcasterMessage = 'Your connection on Farcaster is on Comm.';
-
 export const updateRelationshipMessageSpec: UpdateRelationshipMessageSpec =
   Object.freeze({
     messageContentForServerDB(
@@ -245,7 +243,13 @@
         });
         return ET`${creator} accepted ${targetPossessive} friend request`;
       } else if (messageInfo.operation === 'farcaster_mutual') {
-        return ET`${connectionOnFarcasterMessage}`;
+        const viewerIsCreator = messageInfo.creator.isViewer;
+        if (viewerIsCreator) {
+          const otherUser = ET.user({ userInfo: messageInfo.target });
+          return ET`${otherUser} is ${messageInfo.targetFID} on Farcaster`;
+        } else {
+          return ET`${creator} is ${messageInfo.creatorFID} on Farcaster`;
+        }
       }
       invariant(
         false,
@@ -290,7 +294,7 @@
           threadID: rawMessageInfo.threadID,
           creatorID: rawMessageInfo.creatorID,
           time: rawMessageInfo.time,
-          robotext: connectionOnFarcasterMessage,
+          robotext: 'Your connection on Farcaster is on Comm.',
           unsupportedMessageInfo: rawMessageInfo,
           dontPrefixCreator: true,
         };