In D10719 I had to lift the logic for the send friend requests button to the `AddUsersListModal` component. To make things easier to review, I lifted part of the logic and created a few TODOs for me to circle back to (specifically with the logic for the pending users since that was going to have significant changes with the new checkbox ux)
This diff lifts the `pendingUsersToAdd` set to the `AddUsersListModal` component, and with `pendingUsersToAdd` now in `AddUsersListModal` I can fix up all the TODOs I set in D10719, and all the functionality should be working again
Linear task: https://linear.app/comm/issue/ENG-5957/update-the-ui-of-add-friends-modal
Depends on D10735