Extract more shared logic from messageListContainer

Summary: After D779 I checked if more logic could be extracted and shared between messageListContainer on native and chatMessageList on web, and it turned out to be possible. This diff handles extraction and also requested change to use params object

Test Plan: Checked if everything works as before

Reviewers: palys-swm, ashoat

Reviewed By: ashoat

Subscribers: ashoat, zrebcu411, Adrian, atul, subnub

Differential Revision: https://phabricator.ashoat.com/D819