[lib] Check the timestamps when joining threads
Summary:
Only update the membership when the operation is younger than the saved timestamp.
https://linear.app/comm/issue/ENG-9115/update-jointhreadspec
Depends on D13216
Test Plan: Created two join thread operations and made sure the timestamp is set correctly.
Reviewers: kamil, inka
Reviewed By: inka
Subscribers: ashoat
Differential Revision: https://phab.comm.dev/D13217